“It Feels Like There Are Knives In My Vagina!”: Women, Sex, and Hormones

Mike CarragherAnti-Aging, Estrogen, Libido, low libido, low sex drive, Sex, stress, TestosteroneLeave a Comment

It’s not easy to talk about sex in a clear and open way.

And it’s especially difficult if you’re a woman, who has been told her entire life not to freely engage in her sexuality, much less express it. Women who see me at The Body Well know my office is a safe space to discuss their bodies, but sex-related symptoms and issues are still challenging for so many women to disclose.

Women experience a range of sexual challenges as they age, including not feeling sexy anymore, decreasing sex drive, pain during sex, and vaginal dryness.

To make matters worse, women often experience these symptoms for a long time before telling anyone. It’s easy enough to understand why: in addition to cultural shaming, it’s difficult to talk with your partner about what’s getting in the way of pleasurable sex. Pointing out what you perceive to be your flaws to someone you want to be intimate with never feels good. It can lead to feelings of sexual inadequacy, both for the woman bringing it up, who may feel unsexy, and also for her partner who may feel it’s their fault for not being sexually stimulating.

But not talking about it can create a cycle of unhappiness. For example, if sex becomes painful, a woman will avoid sex. But since it’s not easy to talk about why she’s avoiding sex, she and her partner will experience confusion and frustration. That will lead to more trouble connecting, which will lead to less intimacy, and so on.

Unfortunately, women often wait until things get so bad that they feel they have no choice but to seek help. When they finally do seek help, many women still haven’t developed a clear way to communicate what’s going on. That’s where I come in.  When I initially ask a woman about her sex life I usually get a surface answer like “it’s ok” or “it’s good.”

So I need to ask detailed questions:

  • How are your orgasms?
  • Are they more or less pleasurable than usual?
  • Do they feel “muffled” or less intense as compared to when you were younger?
  • Is it harder to actually get to climax?
  • Do you need to use lubrication more often?
  • Is sex uncomfortable?
  • Are you sore/itchy/burning after sex?
  • Do you feel sexy?

If the questions above resonate with you, don’t hesitate to contact me at The Body Well today so we can get your sexual vitality back!

There are many factors involved in sexual health, and we’ll look at all of those together.

Diet, exercise, and sleep all play factors, but so does another key factor: Your hormones. Only a hormone panel conducted by an Age Management practitioner will reveal whether or not you’re at optimal levels for sexual function, pleasure, and confidence.

Certain hormones can lead to a loss of vaginal lubrication as well as thinning of the vaginal tissues. This combination can cause small vaginal tears during sex that can be quite uncomfortable, and can cause not just vaginal pain during sex, but can cause burning, itching, and pain after sex.

I’ve heard more than one patient say, “It feels like I have knives in my vagina!” Ouch!

A hormone I look out for in particular is testosterone. Unfortunately, testosterone is misconceived of as a “male hormone,” mostly because it’s marketed as a cure-all for erectile issues. But testosterone is directly linked to a woman’s energy, mood, confidence, and contributes to a woman’s clitoral sensitivity and ability to have an orgasm (and an amazing one at that!), as well as enhancing the internal lubrication and make the lining of the vagina less fragile. Testosterone can be such a game changer in a woman’s life.

Optimal estrogen, DHEA, thyroid all play a role in your sexual health as well, so finding a doctor to optimize all of the hormones is key.

Sexual vitality colors your entire life…it’s more than just that thing you do in the bedroom once in awhile: It’s part of who you are, every day.

Don’t wait until you’re in pain or your relationship or self confidence are impacted. If you want a better sex life, and to be the best you possible, make an appointment with me at The Body Well today!

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Dr. Jill Stocker completed her undergraduate degree in Molecular and Cellular Biology at the University of Arizona and proceeded to medical school at Kirksville College of Osteopathic Medicine in Missouri. She then completed her training and residency in Michigan, becoming Board Certified in Family Medicine, with advanced certification in Age Management Medicine.
To schedule an evaluation or consultation with Dr. Stocker, email her directly at drjill@thebodywellusa.com or call
(323) 874-9355.
For more information on Dr. Jill and her journey, click here.

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